Pre-Commitment Options
How to prepare for your "happily ever after"
"Compatibility doesn't determine the fate of a marriage, how you deal with the incompatibilities, does.”
- Abhijit Naskar
If you’ve decided to take the next step in being more committed to each other, this is the perfect time to invest in learning about key communication skills, your relationship dynamics and exploring what you both need from your relationship in the years ahead.
Couples often come to me for help when their relationship has started to break down. As we work through communication difficulties and areas of conflict they often say “why didn’t anyone tell us this before!”
The truth is you don't have to wait until challenges develop before investing in the understanding and skills for a happy and fulfilling relationship. The tools I use have been independently proven to reduce the risk of divorce by 30% and have been used by over 4 million couples.
The science of how people
build and maintain,
happy and fulfilling relationships.
You can opt for arranging a number of couples counselling or coaching sessions with me by filling in the online enquiry form or you might consider a customised programme. I’ve created two coaching programmes both of which help you prepare for your "happily ever after", not just your big day.
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So if you’d like to :
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know the secrets of happy, high performing couples
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to reduce the risk of divorce
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lay the positive foundations for a lifetime together
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understand the science, not the myths around marriage
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have a customised plan of action for your relationship
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Then you can get the basic programme:
The Essentials for “I do” for £185
or invest in the full programme:
Fundamentals of a Happy Marriage/Civil Partnership for £410.
Details below.
The Essentials for “I do”
During 2 private sessions you will:-
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Learn the key factors for a successful long-term relationship.
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Find out how your relationship scores on these key factors.
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Have a personalised report detailing your strength and challenge areas.
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Receive your personal plan of action for you as a couple.
Meet with me from the comfort of your own home at a time that suits you. Have access to the market leading, confidential relationship assessment tool. Receive a personalised, detailed 10 page couples report covering: current status of your relationship (vitalised, harmonious, conventional, conflicted); key strengths and growth areas across the 9 key relationship facets; the relationship map of you as a couple. For each of you, your personal stress profile and your Big 5 Personality profile. In the first session I will give you valuable insights into your relationship and the steps you can take to make it stronger and happier for your lifetime together. You'll leave the session with a personalised relationship workbook and action plan for your relationship. Then have a second follow up session to review your progress and plan your next steps.
This is a 2 session programme, it includes :-
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Access to the Prepare & Enrich online assessment
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Analysis of your relationship
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A Couples coaching sessions of 60 minutes
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Personalised Couples Report
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Personalised Workbook
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A follow up couples coaching session of 30 minutes
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The fee for the programme is £185
Fundamentals of a Happy Marriage for Engaged Couples
During 5 private sessions you will:-
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Explore the strength and challenge areas for your relationship.
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Strengthen communications skills for preventing conflict.
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Identify and learn strategies for managing major stressors.
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Learn to resolve conflicts using the Ten Step Model.
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Develop a more balanced relationship using the Couple and Family maps.
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Understand your personality differences and maximise teamwork.
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Meet with me from the comfort of your own home at a time that suits you. Have access to the market leading, confidential relationship assessment tool. Receive a personalised, detailed 10 page couples report covering: current status of your relationship (vitalised, harmonious, conventional, conflicted); key strengths and growth areas across the 9 key relationship facets; the relationship map of you as a couple. For each of you, your personal stress profile and your Big 5 Personality profile. During the programme I will give you valuable insights into your relationship and coach you to make it stronger and happier for your lifetime together. You'll leave the programme with a personalised relationship workbook and action plan for your relationship.
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The Fundamentals of a Happy Marriage/Civil Partnership
This is a full 5 session programme, it includes :-
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An introductory session of 30 minutes
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Access to the Prepare & Enrich online assessment
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Analysis
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4 Couples coaching sessions of 60 minutes each
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Personalised Couples Report
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Personalised Workbook
The fee for the programme is £410
Prepare & Enrich - background
Dr. David Olsen, a family psychologist at the University of Minnesota developed the Prepare & Enrich programme in the 1980s, and since then has been continually enhanced through research and technical development. It is one of the most researched assessment tools with over 1200 published articles supporting its validity and reliability. It has been the No.1 Premarital assessment tool for over 35 years. Research has shown that pre-marital couples who do the Prepare-Enrich programme experience higher marital satisfaction, higher commitment, and lower marital conflict. Over 4 million couples have used the tool.
